I know there are times when people hurt us and treat us unfairly. I get that. And, let’s be honest, there are times when our hurt comes from self-inflicted wounds. I know it’s hard to admit and painful to accept, but it’s true. Here is how one proverb describes a self-inflicted wound.

Proverbs 11:17
A man who is kind benefits himself, but a cruel man hurts himself.

The word “kind” in our passage today translates to the Hebrew word chesed. It is sometimes translated as “love,” “lovingkindness,” or even “loyal love.” Chesed shows up at home in the menial tasks of loading the dishwasher, doing the laundry, or mowing the grass. Chesed shows up in a neighbor who shovels your driveway after it snow, hauls away branches after a storm, or watches your house while you’re away. Chesed is delivered with kind words and generous hands.

On the other hand, cruel and selfish actions produce self-inflicted wounds. Don’t try to blame others or rationalize. Own up to what you said or did and replace selfishness with kindness. When you do, you are benefiting yourself…and others. 

Father, help us look for and find opportunities to demonstrate chesed today. And by your Spirit, may we enjoy the benefits.

In Jesus’ name.

Amen.