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When you read devotionals pertaining to marriage, some of you may feel like I am rubbing salt in your wounds. That’s certainly not my intent, and for those who have been divorced, I know the pain is deep. And I know many of you tried so hard to keep your marriage together. You can’t undo the past. You desire to make your life count for God. Thank God he offers forgiveness and restoration to us all.

Psalm 86:5
For you, O Lord, are good and forgiving, abounding in steadfast love to all who call upon you.

Here are several things I would recommend if you have been divorced or are going through a divorce. Prayerfully consider those that may apply to you.

• Attempt to reconcile if possible.
  This, of course, may be out of the question. But if your former spouse is not remarried, how amazing would it be for God to change hearts and bring you back together as a new couple. At least, commit it to prayer.

• Seek forgiveness from God and your former spouse for your contribution to the marriage failure.
  So maybe it was 90% their fault. Then own up to your 10% and seek forgiveness. Don’t worry about your former spouse’s response. Just do what God calls you to do.

• Don’t jump into another relationship on the rebound.
  Far too many people make big relationship mistakes as they rebound from a divorce. Get involved in a Divorce Care ministry and take the needed time to heal.

• When/if you remarry, make a commitment to do it right…to make it last.
  You can’t change the past. But your present and future can be radically transformed by God’s grace.

Finally, remember this: The Lord is “good and forgiving, abounding in steadfast love to all who call upon [him].” Call on him and let him heal your heart.

Father, I pray for those who have experienced the hell of a divorce. Comfort them. Remind them of your steadfast love and forgiveness. Give them patience in healing and a commitment to follow hard after you. In Jesus’ name. Amen.