Song of Solomon 8:8-9
We have a little sister, and she has no breasts. What shall we do for our sister on the day when she is spoken for? If she is a wall, we will build on her a battlement of silver, but if she is a door, we will enclose her with boards of cedar.
The Song of Solomon pulls no punches regarding sex, but it is in no way crude or vulgar. Through exquisite poetry the book vividly describes this beautiful gift from God within the context of marriage. Today’s passage explains that the training for biblical sexuality begins at home.
The family asks: How can we prepare our sister for God’s gift?
If she is a wall, we will build on her a battlement of silver.
The city wall was strong. It provided protection from enemies. The tower was where the battle gear was hung. The battle ornaments gave a sense of strength and preparedness. So, if the young girl remained strong like a wall—refusing to give in to sexual temptations—the family would encourage and honor her virtue.
If she is a door, we will enclose her with boards of cedar.
If the young woman was promiscuous—open to the advancement of men—then the family would place restrictions on her in order to protect her from hurting herself prior to marriage.
So as children (this instruction applies to young men as well) mature and become sexually aware, it is the parents’ responsibility to encourage proper behavior and restrict improper behavior. This type of interaction is not easy. It takes time and energy that only those who love their children are willing to give. This is not the description of an overly strict family, but one that cares and is committed enough to do their job in teaching sexual responsibility.
Talking to God
Father, I pray that you will give all parents the courage they need to guide and train their children in the area of sexuality. Thank you for allowing us to teach our children about sex before they hear about it from their friends. I pray that all the learning about this vital area of life takes place in a healthy way within the safe environment of the home. And I pray that you will help parents (and grandparents) model biblical sexuality. In Jesus’ name. Amen.
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